“Time fixes everything”

“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” - Pema Chödrön

“Time fixes everything” — a phrase we’ve all heard so often, and parts of us find comfort in believing it could be true.

It gives hope — that if we just hang on long enough, everything will dissipate on its own.

What time really does is pass. It gives us opportunities to make changes consciously, so that the future might be different. But time itself doesn’t make the changes. We do

Over time, some memories and experiences can feel less vivid, less at the forefront of our conscious mind. They may soften, feel lighter, more distant. – simply because life keeps moving and new memories and experiences accumulate, the older ones moving further back.

The result of time passing. It doesn’t “fix” anything per se though.

Yet when there has been hurt, it often remains beneath the surface. Less sharp, perhaps, but still present — a weight that becomes perceptible when we pause long enough to feel it.

So what makes things better?

The work — in whichever form works for us.

The talking therapy

The somatic modalities

The energy work

The parts work

The hypnotherapy

The journaling

Feeling the feelings we once suffocated

Looking into our shadows

Doing the inner child work

Speaking our truth

Living in radical authenticity

Doing the forgiving

And if it sounds like work, it’s often because it is.

The price might feel high — but the rewards are greater.

“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” - James Baldwin